Here’s the third tip in the romance advice series, How to Win a Girl’s Heart… And Keep It!
Tip #3–Open Her Door
I know that this is the age of “equality” for women, and I’m all for it. In fact, thirty years ago, I was one of twenty women in a class of one hundred twenty who graduated with a Doctor of Dental Surgery. I battled uphill against male career-domination for much of my educational and professional life. I’m all about women’s rights. But that doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate my man’s romantic gesture when he holds the door open for me. It’s not that he thinks I’m too weak to open the door on my own. He would perform the same service for anyone, male or female, who is near him when he enters a door. He’s showing respect and being polite. (His mother raised him that way.) It’s just one way of telling me that he puts my needs before his own. He’s a considerate man. More importantly, he’s my considerate man. He’s never thrown his coat down to allow me to walk across a puddle, but he’s carried me across a muddy spot on several occasions.
My husband demonstrated this attitude of deference to both me and our daughters, teaching them to expect the same from their future husbands. When the first daughter turned sixteen, he took her on a special father/daughter date and demonstrated the respectful attitude a boy should exhibit. He opened her car door and helped her in. Upon arrival at the restaurant, he, opened the car door again and offered his hand to help her climb out. Of course, he held the restaurant door open as she entered and pulled out her chair when she sat at the table. He repeated this special father/daughter evening with the second daughter on her sixteenth birthday. In this, and many other ways, he exemplified a considerate man. He modeled the essence of love–treasuring another person and placing their needs above your own.
Do you think our daughters held out for a man with the same selfless and considerate qualities as their Dad? You bet they did!